Learned Helplessness – Oh, Woe Is Me!

Learned helplessness is when people have faced so many challenges in their lives that they begin to believe they are powerless in the face of their external circumstances, and therefore, they just stop trying to change them. Re-learning that you are in control of more of your life than you’re not is imperative to moving it forward.  Brianna Wiest

I can’t tell you the number of times in my life I have heard and said, “If it was going to happen it was going to happen to me.”

Or, “I just knew if it was going to happen it was going to happen to us!”

These statements were never said with the possibility of something good happening, it was always negative and always with the tone of Oh, Woe Is Me!
It was just so easy to blame something out there for the problems I faced.

It was never any thought given to the idea that maybe the things that I felt helpless to avoid were the results of the actions I was taking.

It was not something out there but something in here, my thoughts and my actions or lack of actions that put me in the right place at the right time to get what I had always gotten.
It took away any control from me and gave it to something or someone out there in the ether.

It took away any responsibility or accountability from me and placed it out there.

This line of thinking allowed me to look outside of myself for blame.

I didn’t have to take responsibility for what was happening in my life it was just that dark cloud that hung over me, it was bad luck, it was things like that always seem to happen to people like me.

Jim Rohn said, “When dealing with people, I generally take the obvious approach.  When someone says, “This always happens to me and that always happens to me.  Why do these things always happen to me?”  I simply say, “Beats me.  I don’t know.  All I know is that those kinds of things seem to happen to people like you.”

This is self-deception and self-delusion in order to avoid the same common denominator in all of these traits and that is the failure to take personal responsibility for our lives and the results we are getting.

It is time to get out of your own way and kick helplessness to the curb and take responsibility for the things that are taking place in your life!

You are where you are today because of the daily or better said the minute by minute decisions you are currently making or not making.
Don’t allow yourself to get complacent in your life and career. 

Don’t neglect to do the things that got you to the top of your profession and then wonder what happened when you were kicked to the curb of that profession.

It is easy to take for granted the success you have achieved, the position you have reached in your career or business.

To stay at the top of your game will require the same sacrifice and commitment that got you there. 
Until the day you take your last breath it is our responsibility to continue to strive for our personal greatness or you will wake up one morning crying out “Oh, Woe Is Me!”
Your Coach,
Mike Inabinett 

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